"The song is ended... but the melody lingers on"

      

    I shall start with this strong statement. Death is around us. We can deny it, pretend that it doesn't exist, and we are eternal creatures and the 'other' side its not a thing. What we can also do, is to have a different attitude towards it and perceive death as an inevitable step in everyone's lives.  

    Death is around us. Around me. I've been thinking about it a lot recently. In 2017, two people, close to me, died and it was these were the first serious moments for me to deal with the loss. It felt like a heartbreak, like loosing a piece of me. The impression that stayed with me till now, when recalling these memories, is the thought that life is fragile. Life is so fragile. I understood that we would never have a full control over it and death of someone is a great example for it. In moments of great suffer and feeling of drowning in the see of hopelessness, the only thing I wanted was to say: "Please, let it stop. Life, just don't go any further". I wished that nothing would have ever changed, so I could prevent the facts of life. But what I learnt is that it doesn't work like that.  Change is the only constant in life, as Heraclitus said, and no one has the power to pause nor stop the world from spinning. 

  In Western thinking, the process of dying is claimed to be something terrible, dark, and basically, taken as a taboo topic. With time,however,I learnt how to talk about it. How to keep in mind, those who are no longer here with us and at the same time, to not suffer from it. Without any hesitation, I am saying that loosing someone is an unimaginable pain, which stays with us. This memory  stays with us and our role henceforth is to make this memory the most beautiful thing. Hiding from it and not talk about it would be a double loss. Our job is to celebrate lives, accomplishments of people who passed away. We should  cherish the memory of them, make a valuable lesson from such experience and live our lives even more   beautifully and fully than ever before.   

   

   I dedicate this post to those those who are  suffering from their loss. Don't ever let the memory of those who are no longer here fade away.